CARBS Which Ways:
8) Online dating
I recently joined a dating website. I was contacted by a lovely man and we started to exchange messages. We now email every day, although we haven’t met in person yet. We had arranged to go for a meal, but then he cancelled because he needs to concentrate on fundraising for his daughter – the medicines she needs aren’t available on the NHS. He’s asked me to contribute, his daughter needs treatment urgently. He’s given me details of a bank account to pay into. I want to help, but I’m unsure because I’ve only known him a short time.
You’re right to be cautious.
Unfortunately dating sites are increasingly being targeted by unscrupulous people. It can be difficult to accept that someone you’ve developed feelings for is trying to swindle you. But scammers can be highly skilled at using emotional triggers to persuade people to part with money or personal information that might make victims vulnerable to identity theft.
Your friend may be completely genuine, but try to find out if he’s really who he says he is.
If he’s reluctant to call you or Skype, or his profile information such as educational achievements doesn’t match the content of his messages, this could be a red flag that it’s a scam.
Other things to look out for include:
Trust your instincts and if in any doubt, don’t part with your money.
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Check out our online advice identifying scams or Action Fraud on romance fraud. Or give us a call. Our trained advisers can help you take the right steps.